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Confirming the White Picket Fence of the James Blake House
Confirming the White Picket Fence of the James Blake House
By Mike Ahuja / LoveSickDiaries.com
Recently I was exposed to the question of a very confused woman, as she should be, especially since she is only 23 years of age. This is an age overflowing of excitement, enthusiasm, and passion for life that seems to commonly play tug a war between immaturity and maturity, such a pleasurable and exciting time it is. Your 20’s are a time to truly lie down and cement the groundwork for your future in all aspects of life. Instead of having me rant and rave about the joys of being in your 20’s let me propose to you this young lady’s question; How long is too long to wait until starting a family especially if you are at the peak of your career at 23?
My immediate thoughts after reading this question were in what sense does this distressed young lady mean by family. Family to some individuals can strictly mean the bonds and close relationships one may have with others, but shortly after digesting the question in the aspect of the societal norm. What is starting a family? Well this means getting married, having children, and creating a heartfelt home together all leading to confirmation of that white picket fence that we tend to desire instinctually, to have in our lives someday.
When is that someday? There is no correct answer for when that someday is except for a woman that someday expires when menopause occurs but I imagine if one were going to start a family it would and should be best to start at least a decade prior to that physiological change. To completely arrive to this gleaming and polished white picket fence, the resolution that has been pondering the thoughts of my mind has been divided amongst three roads, but all roads lead to the white picket fence in the end.
The first road is the dirt road, a road that symbolizes if one is presently single at this youthful age. In this situation it is definitely wise to be dating and searching out potentials not to have children with but potentials to have an emotional invested relationship with. This process of single hood is one that clears the brush and prepares one to enable laying down the gravel for ones road in starting a family, but not to confuse one with laying down the asphalt. Many people around the world feel your frustration but please don’t jump into some long committed relationship just because you are feeling the pressure of age, remember you are very young, nowhere near menopause.
Her next road in the process of arrival to her white picket fence is that of gravel. Traveling on this gravel road shouldn’t be a short excursion because once that asphalt is laid and dried it becomes difficult to undo and redo. The gravel road is the committed unmarried relationship with no children; do not even ponder the children part of the family until you are completely sure you have found the person that you want to have a beautiful wedding ceremony with. To be safe and secure in arriving to your final destination without troubles, this gravel road should really be traveled for approximately 7 years.
Now she has reached the final step in entrance to the appearance of starting a family, a 7-year journey on a gravel road of dissecting your significant other on all spectrums of life. It is now time to get on that asphalt or jump back onto the dirt road. Once you and your love exchange vows in that beautiful and spiritual ceremony give it a year or two, and don’t be younger than the age of 30 before you place the lines on your new asphalt road in having your first child. What’s the hurry?
There is no reason that she should be in a hurry to start a family but I do agree that she should start preparing and understanding in the kind of family that she desires. Planning shows a great sense of maturity on her part but remember that she is very young, so take your time. Plus there is no possible way she is at the peak of her career, raise your personal expectation bar in your career and challenge yourself a bit more. I do realize that we as a society crave things so fast and quick these days but I am not telling you some beautiful lie but rather the horrible truth, because it would be so much easier to say fall in love and 9 months later be happily married with a beautiful baby girl but I don’t want you to be another divorce statistic.
Mike Ahuja
http://www.lovesickdiaries.com
By Mike Ahuja / LoveSickDiaries.com
Recently I was exposed to the question of a very confused woman, as she should be, especially since she is only 23 years of age. This is an age overflowing of excitement, enthusiasm, and passion for life that seems to commonly play tug a war between immaturity and maturity, such a pleasurable and exciting time it is. Your 20’s are a time to truly lie down and cement the groundwork for your future in all aspects of life. Instead of having me rant and rave about the joys of being in your 20’s let me propose to you this young lady’s question; How long is too long to wait until starting a family especially if you are at the peak of your career at 23?
My immediate thoughts after reading this question were in what sense does this distressed young lady mean by family. Family to some individuals can strictly mean the bonds and close relationships one may have with others, but shortly after digesting the question in the aspect of the societal norm. What is starting a family? Well this means getting married, having children, and creating a heartfelt home together all leading to confirmation of that white picket fence that we tend to desire instinctually, to have in our lives someday.
When is that someday? There is no correct answer for when that someday is except for a woman that someday expires when menopause occurs but I imagine if one were going to start a family it would and should be best to start at least a decade prior to that physiological change. To completely arrive to this gleaming and polished white picket fence, the resolution that has been pondering the thoughts of my mind has been divided amongst three roads, but all roads lead to the white picket fence in the end.
The first road is the dirt road, a road that symbolizes if one is presently single at this youthful age. In this situation it is definitely wise to be dating and searching out potentials not to have children with but potentials to have an emotional invested relationship with. This process of single hood is one that clears the brush and prepares one to enable laying down the gravel for ones road in starting a family, but not to confuse one with laying down the asphalt. Many people around the world feel your frustration but please don’t jump into some long committed relationship just because you are feeling the pressure of age, remember you are very young, nowhere near menopause.
Her next road in the process of arrival to her white picket fence is that of gravel. Traveling on this gravel road shouldn’t be a short excursion because once that asphalt is laid and dried it becomes difficult to undo and redo. The gravel road is the committed unmarried relationship with no children; do not even ponder the children part of the family until you are completely sure you have found the person that you want to have a beautiful wedding ceremony with. To be safe and secure in arriving to your final destination without troubles, this gravel road should really be traveled for approximately 7 years.
Now she has reached the final step in entrance to the appearance of starting a family, a 7-year journey on a gravel road of dissecting your significant other on all spectrums of life. It is now time to get on that asphalt or jump back onto the dirt road. Once you and your love exchange vows in that beautiful and spiritual ceremony give it a year or two, and don’t be younger than the age of 30 before you place the lines on your new asphalt road in having your first child. What’s the hurry?
There is no reason that she should be in a hurry to start a family but I do agree that she should start preparing and understanding in the kind of family that she desires. Planning shows a great sense of maturity on her part but remember that she is very young, so take your time. Plus there is no possible way she is at the peak of her career, raise your personal expectation bar in your career and challenge yourself a bit more. I do realize that we as a society crave things so fast and quick these days but I am not telling you some beautiful lie but rather the horrible truth, because it would be so much easier to say fall in love and 9 months later be happily married with a beautiful baby girl but I don’t want you to be another divorce statistic.
Mike Ahuja
http://www.lovesickdiaries.com
2008-07-07 01:23:29 GMT
